Advices to Women Advices to Women220. The woman who takes off her clothes in a house in front of others besides her husband has destroyed the veil that is between her and Allah. (Ahmad)
221- لَاْ يَحِلُّ لِاْمرأَةٍ تُؤْمِنُ بِاللهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ أَنْ تَحِدَّ فَوْقَ ثَلَاثٍ إِلَّا عَلَى زَوْجٍ فَإِنَّها لَا يَحِلُّ لَهَا أَنْ تَكْتَحِلَ وَلاَ تَلْبِسَ ثَوْبَاً مَصْبُوغَاً إِلَا ثَوْبَ عَصَبٍ.البخاري221. It is not allowed for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day to mourn (the dead) more than three days except for her husband; she can (mourn) by avoiding eyeliner and the dyed clothes except natural colors. (Al-Bukhari)
222- أَيَّمَا امْرَأةٍ زَادَتْ في رَأْسِها شَعْراً لَيْسَ مْنُه فَإِنَّهُ زُورٌ تَزِيْدُ فِيْهِ.النسائي222. When a woman who puts on a wig or extends her hair, that is a sin and a fraud she adds to her hair. (Al-Nasaai)
223- أَيَّمَا امْرَأةٍ تَطَيَّبَتْ ثُمَّ خَرَجَتْ إِلَى المَسْجِدِ لَمْ تُقْبَلْ مِنْهَا صَلَاْةٌ حَتَّى تَغْتَسِلَ.أبو داود223. The Salah of the woman who puts perfume on and goes to the Masjid will not be accepted until she washes (the perfume) away. (Abu Daud)
224- أَيَّمَا امْرَأَةٍ اسْتَعْطَرَتْ فَمَرَتْ عَلَى قَوْمٍ لِيَجِدُوا مِنْ رِيْحِها فِإِنَّهَا زَاْنِيَةٌ.النسائي224. The woman who puts on perfume and passes by, so that men may notice her scent, is adulterous. (Al-Nasaai)
225- لَاْ تُسَاْفِرُ المَرْأَةُ ثَلَاثَةَ أَيَّامٍ إِلَّا مَعَ ذِيْ مَحْرَمٍ.البخاري ومسلم225. A woman should not travel alone for three days but with a Mahram (a male relative who is not allowed to marry her). (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
226- يَاْ عَاْئِشَةُ عَلَيْكِ بِتَقْوَى اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ وَالرِّفْقِ فَإِنَّ الرِّفْقَ لَمْ يَكُنْ فِي شَيْءٍ قَطُّ إِلَّا زَانَهُ وَلَمْ يُنْزَعُ مِنْ شَيءٍ قَطُّ إِلَّا شَانَهُ.أحمد226. Oh A’ishah! Fear Allah, the Great and the Almighty, and be kind because kindness makes everything pleasant and anything without kindness is a scandal. (Ahmad)
227- نِعْمَ نِساءُ الأَنْصَارِ لَمْ يَمْنَعْهُنَّ الحَيَاءُ أَنْ يَتَفقَّهْنَ فِي الدِّيْنِ.البخاري227. May Allah bless the women of Al-Ansaar (women of Medina)! Their bashfulness did not prevent them from understanding their religion well. (Al-Bukhari)
228- لَاْ تُبَاشِرُ المَرْأَةُ المَرْأَةَ فَتَنْعَتُهَا لِزَوجِهَا كَأَنَّهُ يَنْظُرُ إِلَيْهَا.البخاري228. A woman is forbidden to describe another woman before her husband as if he was seeing her. (Al-Bukhari)
229- لَاْ يَبِيَتيَّن رَجُلٌ عِنْدَ امْرَأَةٍ ثَيِبٍّ إِلَّا أَنْ يَكُونَ نَاكِحَاً أَوْ ذَا مَحْرَمٍ.مسلم229. A man cannot spend a night in a married woman’s house, unless if he is her husband or her Mahram (a relative who is not allowed to marry her). (Muslim)
230- يَاْ عَائِشَةُ إِيَّاكِ وَمُحْقِراتِ الأَعْمالِ فَإِنَّ لَهَا مِنَ اللهِ طَالِباً.ابن ماجه230. Oh, A’ishah! Be careful of the small sins, because the small sins will complain to Allah. (Ibn Maajah)
231- قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهَا يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَرَأَيْتَ إِنْ عَلِمْتُ لَيْلَةِ القَدْرِ مَا أَقُولُ فِيْها قَاْلَ قُوْلِي اللَّهُمَّ إِنَّكَ عَفْوٌّ كَريْمْ تُحِبُّ العَفْوَ فَاْعُفُ عَنِيّ. الترمذي
231. A’ishah said to the Prophet, “Oh Messenger of Allah, if I come across Lilatu-l-Qadr (the holy night in Ramadan), what should I say?” He said, “Say, Allahumma inaka ‘afuwwun kareem tuhibbul ‘afwa fa’fu ‘annee, Oh Allah, You are the generous forgiving one and you like forgiveness, so forgive me.” (At-Tirmithi)
232. Oh Um Saleem! Do not annoy me by mentioning A’ishah! I swear by Allah that Wahi (revelation from Allah) has not come to me in any of your blankets, but in her blanket. (Al-Bukhari)
233- يَا مَعْشَرَ النِّسَاءِ تَصَدَّقْنَ فَإِنِّي رَأَيْتُكُنَّ أَكْثَرَ أَهْلِ النَّارِ. - وَفِي رِوَايَةٍ: وَأَكْثِرْنَ مِنَ الاسْتِغْفَارْ فَقُلْنَ وَلِمَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ قَاْلَ تَكْفُرْنَ العَشِيرَ مَا رَأَيْتُ مِنْ نَاْقِصَاْتِ عَقْلٍ وَدِيْنٍ أَذْهَبُ لِلُبِّ الرَّجُلِ مِنْ إِحْدَاكُنَّ.البخاري
233. Oh women! Give charities because I saw that you are the majority of the people of the Fire. In another narration, “And do more Istighfar (ask pardon from Allah).” A woman asked, “Why, Oh Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Because you depreciate your husbands after a long life. I did not see someone diminished in mind and religion as you, causing men to be out of their roles.” (Al-Bukhari)
234. Oh Um Al’ala’! Rejoice because the illness of a Muslim takes his sins away just like when fire takes away the impurities of gold and silver. (Agreed on)
235- أَيَّمَا امْرَأَةٍ نُكِحَتْ بِغَيْرِ إِذْنِ وَلِيِّهَا فَنِكَاحُهَا بَاطِلٌ فَنِكَاحُهَا بَاطِلٌ فَنِكَاحُهَا بَاطِلٌ. أحمد في مسنده وأبو داود والترمذي وابن ماجة والحاكم235. Whenever a woman marries without her guardian’s permission, her marriage is illegal, her marriage is illegal, her marriage is illegal. (Ahmad in his musnad, Abu Daud, At-Tirmithi, Ibn Mahah, and Al-Haakim)
236- إِنِّي لَاْ أُصَافِحُ النِّساءَ إِنَّما قَوْلِي لِمِائَةِ امْرَأَةٍ كَقَولِي لِامْرَأَةٍ وَاْحِدَةٍ.مالك236. I do not shake hands with women. My saying to one hundred women is the same as my saying to one woman. (Maalik)
237- لَا يَحِلُّ لامْرَأَةٍ تَسْأَلُ طَلَاْقَ أُخْتِهَا لِتُفْرِغَ صَحْفَتَهَا فَإِنَّمَا لَهَا مَا قُدِّرَ لَهَا.البخاري ومسلم237. It is forbidden for a woman to plan a divorce for her married sister, in order to marry her sister’s husband, because her sister has what is ordained to her. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
238- مَاْ يَمْنَعُكِ أَنْ تَسْمَعِيْ مَاْ أُوصِيْكِ بِهِ أَنْ تَقُولِي إِذَا أَصْبَحْتِ وَإِذَا أَمْسَيْتِ يَاْ حَيُّ يَاْ قَيُّومُ بِرَحْمَتِكَ أَسْتَغِيْثُ أَصْلِحْ لِي شَأْنِي كُلَّه وَلَاْ تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ.الحاكم
238. Umar Ibn Al-Khattab
said to his daughter, “What prevents you from listening to what I am recommending you to say in the morning and in the evening, ‘Yaa haiyyu yaa qaiyyoom birahmatika astagheeth, aslih lee sha’nee kullah wa laa takilni ila nafsee tarfata ‘aiyn, Oh Allah! The Everlasting and the Eternal, Your mercy I seek; make my whole matter right, and do not leave me to myself even for a blink of an eye.’” (Al-Hakim)